If your child was perfectly thoughtful and communicative, this is what they would say
Dearest mom or dad,
I need you more than I need anyone else in the world. When I was a baby, I depended on you. As I have grown, our relationship has changed. It is supposed to.
I understand it is confusing that I do not want you to grip on too tightly nor do I want you to let me go. Let’s acknowledge the confusion and get the support we need to navigate the grey.
I want you to be happy. The more you take care of yourself and do what gives your life meaning (outside of me) the more I learn to do the same. The more you show up authentically as you, the more freedom I feel to show up authentically as me.
I really want you to see me. Please do the work that you need to do in order to be fully engaged with me. It know it is hard, but your vulnerability is your strength and I learn the most from you when I witness your capacity to keep growing.
Your work is to model self-worth and authenticity, and develop the practices that show me how deeply you are paying attention. The health and depth of our connection depends on it, and I want that more than anything.
One of the most important things my children have taught me is how closely they are watching. As a daughter, I know that this reality does not change. My children will not learn how to stay true to and love themselves without my example. They will not learn how to have authentic relationships unless I show them.
I do not walk the journey of motherhood alone and you do not need to either. I am here to support you as you navigate the different stages of parenthood and identity.
How It Works
You are committing to three months of intensive work to experience a shift in how you are able to show up with and for your childrne.
During our initial sessions I want to understand who you are and your parenting goals. You will learn about the three-month process and what to expect at the end of it.
Our shared goal is to experience changes in you and how you interact with your children, NOT changes in your children.
We move to my Core Four Compass skill-building system to enhance your connection with and understanding of yourself. Why?
1) If you want to have a deep connection with your child, you need to show up authentically.
2) Research shows that who we are and how we engage with the world are much stronger predictors of how our children will do, then what we know about parenting (Brene Brown).
This phase consists of homework and coaching calls.
Inherited money messaging
Modeling authenticity and self-worth
Deepening engagement within a disengaged culture
Effective communication at various ages and stages
With an improved sense of what and how to model wellbeing for your children, we move into addressing specific needs in your relational dynamics. Together we build and practice customized strategies to enhance connection and engender self-worth in your children.
At the end of three months, you will trust yourself more and need me less. We will assess your support needs going forward and I will be here to help you address them.